Just Mind Your Own Business Or, How Not To Be An Asshole Blogger

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With any and every job in the world, there are politics. Whether you’re working alone at a desk in your company of one or you’re part of a mega-conglomerate, you’re gonna have to deal with drama.

Blogging is no different. 

Here’s what happens. If they’re doing what they’re supposed to and doing it well, bloggers get opportunities, whether it’s for a press trip, a sponsored post, or a box of crackers to review. The things that bloggers are pitched on a daily basis run the gamut. There’s always another blogger that is either jealous and doesn’t think that you deserve that opportunity, or they’re happy for you because they’re your colleague (or, maybe they just don’t give a shit). 

Here is where a line is defined. Maybe they complain about that missed opportunity to other bloggers or they post it on Twitter or Facebook. Rarely will they say it to your face. This is when blogging is often referred to as “so high school.” But guess what. That’s life. It’s in every job, every level of society, every facet of life, there is drama. This is what your parents should have prepared you for. Bloggers aren’t special when it comes to life. We’re not immune to words or insults or the continued high school mentality in our professional lives.

If someone gets promoted at the mega-conglomerate, there’s always someone that doesn’t think they deserve it and they’ll make it known. Or, maybe they just want to vent on Facebook how someone was promoted and while they’re bummed, they still love their job and will continue on. You, as a mega-conglomerate co-worker have no obligation whatsoever to participate in their banter. You can hear them in the break room at work and decide to eat lunch at your desk, or you can ignore their Facebook post.

However, if you decide to talk to other co-workers about their comments, or you decide to defend your promotion-worthy friend on Facebook – no matter how vague you decide to do so – you’re just further patronizing the high school mentality. This applies to blogging, as well.

Think of it this way: if that blogger wants to post, on their page, about how mad or sad they are about a missed opportunity, the only people that will see that is their friends. If their friends don’t like it, they have the option to unfollow OR unfriend that person. Period.

However, if you decide that you’re going to be the gallant friend and defend their honor by vaguely scolding them on your own page, all you’re doing is putting yourself into that drama. It’s you who have raised attention to that person’s post and feelings and furthered the high school mentality. People who wouldn’t otherwise have known about are now aware. People who wouldn’t have otherwise seen it are now seeking out their page because they want to know, they want to put in their two cents – it’s how we are. You’ve just spread that mentality.

You… have no obligation whatsoever to participate in their banter. You can hear them in the break room at work and decide to eat lunch at your desk, or you can ignore their Facebook post.”

Don’t be an asshole. We can all support each other, but we can also be bummed about not getting that promotion or opportunity. We can also share that on our page because it is, in fact, OUR page. That being said, you can also vaguely scold that person on your page because it is, in fact, your page, but know that it doesn’t make you look gallant; it only makes you look like you’re sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong.

Being a grown up means actually acting like a grown up. We all get bummed or feel left out, just like we did in high school, and we still hope that when we vent, we get a little support from those who care about us. We also hope that if you’re lucky enough to have gotten that promotion or that opportunity, that you’re confident enough in your abilities that you don’t need validation from others to know what you’ve done is right.  Do your job, or someone else will do it for you. 

Whether you’re the employee at a mega-conglomerate or working at your desk alone in your company of one, be supportive. Support the person who got the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity or promotion and support the person who may be frustrated with being passed over, but will move on. Be supportive.



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